Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life

They literally can't help themselves. Reduce the stress loads, and problems quickly dissipate..      There are dramatic consequences to looking at a child's behaviour through the lens of self-regulation. That is, misbehaving kids aren't choosing to be difficult. And what draws down our reserves? Excessive stress.      According to Shanker, the ability to deal effectively with stress is limited, though. Like a tank of gas, our energy reserves eventually dwindle, leaving a kid--or an adult--simply unable to control his or her impulses. Stress of all kinds, from social anxiety to an uncomfortable chair. According to world-renowned researcher Stuart Shanker, even the most frustrating, annoying or troubling behaviour has an explanation. Above all it discards the knee-jerk reaction that a child who is having trouble paying attention, controlling his impulses, or who gives up easily on a difficult task, is somehow weak or lacks self-discipline or is not making a great enough effort to apply himself. In the past twenty years neurobiologic

“Though this book takes children’s needs as its focus, it is really focused on providing guidance—and even a degree of consolation—to adults as they navigate the often tricky parent-child relationship. If the stressed populations most in need of this book’s lessons can find the time to read it, they will appreciate its potential to bring the minds of both parent and child to a state of heightened attentiveness with minimal anxiety.”— Publishers Weekly. Shanker gives readers clear explanations of even the more complex neurological information, such as the role of the limbic system, as well as ample diagrams. And the discussion does not stop at the early childhood stage, moving ultimat

Five Stars This is a great book! Very helpful for some of my challenging students.

Stuart Shanker is a distinguished research professor emeritus of philosophy and psychology at York University in Toronto and creator of The MEHRIT Centre, which is working with school boards across Canada to implement Self-Reg in teacher and parent education. Dr. He lives in Ontario.Teresa H. . He was educated at the University of Toronto, where he won several awards, including scholarships to study at Oxford, where he obtained his doctorate. Barker is a journalist and nonf